The perfect "I Do": Our essential guide to a stress-free wedding
- A. Nazario
- Jan 21, 2020
- 4 min read
Updated: Jan 28, 2020
Im sure the title alone made you laugh. Listen, there is no such thing as a stress free wedding. I repeat. No. Such. Thing. You can be the most organized person in the world & I can promise you, something will go wrong. But guess what? Thats ok! It's part of the experience, so hold on tight & enjoy the ride :)
There are many things you can do that will help you get ahead of the chaos!
1. Fix your mentality. We all want what we want, when we want it...especially when it comes to our big day. The number one advice I can give any bride, is to be flexible and open minded. Things won't always go according to plan, so when it happens it'll be better to figure out the solution - instead of having a third degree meltdown. So many things went wrong at my wedding (including my cake coming out with pink and yellow flowers as if it were a baby shower - I kid you not) so trust me when I say, LET IT GO. When it's all said & done, you'll have a great laugh at it all.
2. Don't be scared to start early with the DIY. Its always nice to leave your personal touch on your wedding day but it is NOT fun to rush last minute to get it all done. It will become so overwhelming that your weeks will start to fly by. Stay organized with what you are doing & ask for help! Ask family, soon to be family & friends to assist you - the memories you'll make will be timeless.
3. BUDGET - If you can't buy it in cash, don't buy it at all. I know that seems so unrealistic to say since we live in a time where credit "saves lives" but seriously, save the credit cards for the emergencies. You'll thank me later. Also, your budget is your budget. This isn't a contest on who spent the most money on their wedding & blah blah blah. If that's your main concern, then you may want to rethink your priorities & think twice about moving forward. Your financial well being as a newly married couple is something to keep in mind.
4. Your bridal party should be the least of your worries. In all honesty, I kind of wish I didn't have one. Maybe just the Maid of honor & flower girls. The drama alone was ridiculous & honestly not everyone will appreciate your invitation to stand by your side on your special day. It's a tough decision to make but reality is, the only thing that really matters is that you are getting married to the love of your life - not who stood by you & gave you multiple anxiety attacks because they didn't like the dress that they chose to wear or decided to gain "extra" weight.
5. Stand up for yourself but have respect for the opposing party. Whether you are marrying into the same culture, a different culture, race or whatever it may be - there are going to be many, mannnnyyyyy unwarranted opinions, wants & "needs". Wedding planning isn't just stressful for you, it is stressful for every single party involved. It's ok to say no to a 40 year old dress that not even Madonna would wear. Its ok to say no to whoever about whatever, but do it with purpose not malice.
6. Check in with your partner. Seems simple right? Listen, this will take effort! Make sure you both are on the same page. See where their head space is and make sure your partner is ok and comfortable. Again, this is a stressful time and you want to make sure you guys are on the same page. You'll be surprised what your significant other may have brewing in that beautiful mind of theirs.
7. Take time to breath. Do something normal during the wedding planning period, that is not wedding planning. Don't lose yourself in the midst of the chaos.
8. Try to stay away from hiring friends as vendors. We all know someone who does something, but business is business. Reality is it's easier to do business with someone whom you are not friends with. If you want to keep a friend involved, try looking for other ways. Maybe ask for advice or ask them to help with the little tasks. If they make a stink about not being hired for your wedding, smooth it over with letting them know that it was more important to have them there as a guest vs. a worker. Doing business with a friend can get very uncomfortable veryyyy fast.
9. There are so many ways to make your guests feel appreciated. Not everything needs to be a huge gesture with insane party favors & such. Make sure you go around your guests tables and thank them for coming. I know it may seem like common sense but so many will appreciate you coming up to them with a heartfelt "Thank you so much for coming". Even though it is your special day, its good to make others feel special & loved as well.
10. At the end of the day, make sure you enjoy yourself at your wedding. Granted there will be ups and downs during the planning process. At some point take a moment & just absorb all that you have accomplished - let all of the doubts/negativity go - Then go dance the night away with your loved ones & new hubby/wifey for life.
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